Mastering Communication

In communication we need to remember that we are doing the best we can with the resources we have. However, we can adapt. I'm an 80's kid. Back then, the way our parents communicated with us was different. Phrases like "because I said so", "When we go to the store, don't ask for nothing", "Back in the day, when I was your age…" were part of our upb...
A person with the most flexibility controls the system, because flexibility gives you more choices. We're not talking about external influence, but internal influence. We're talking about mental flexibility, behavioral flexibility. Inflexible people don't like change. What happens when we get stuck in our own behavior or mental inflexibility? We be...
I wanted to talk about incongruence in communication, and how you can actually improve communication by listening. Have you ever - while talking to someone - felt like they are saying one thing, but something else is going on down the surface... like something is off? It's Possible to Figure Out the Real Message   Do you remember the show "Lie...
If we want to have a chance of changing the current situation, we will need to dismantle conversations at the unconscious level. There is a difference between the world itself and how we experience it. ​ Perception ​ Each person has a different model of the world. That personal view is our reference of reality, and not necessarily reality itself. T...
Transformation really happens on the unconscious level. People act the way they do because people learn how to be a certain way on an unconscious level. There can be no change if we don't begin to get at this at the UNCONSCIOUS level when the consciousness has NOT SHIFTED. What Does it Take to Make a Transformation?   #1 Being Open To the Exis...
When you are envisioning and creating what you want, it's important to be as specific as possible, or else you could produce unintended results. It's the unconscious mind specificity. With the unconscious mind, "the inside matches the outside". The unconscious mind likes to have direction from the conscious mind. If there is no rapport, the unconsc...
You've probably heard how it takes 21 days to make a habit. But the ones who know the unconscious mind, know the real underlying mechanism of forming habits. How important it is to have those unconscious elements in order to really have power in our lives! ​ Building Up Habits ​ The unconscious mind need a fair amount of repetition to build up habi...
The unconscious mind receives all the information given to us. Said information is filtered and processed before it reaches out conscious brain. This way we can manage and understand it. ​ How We Perceive Information ​ Back in the nineties (early to mid nineties), there were these abstract art pieces… and if you stared at them long enough, you coul...
A lot of people think that it takes a big traumatic event for emotion repression, but often times it's not a huge event. The unconscious mind has the task of repressing memories with unresolved emotions for your survival. The unconscious mind is aware of how unhealthy it would be for the body to have these feelings circling around all the time. It ...
Although I help empower others on their experience of burnout, daily, I am not ourselves immune to its effects on the mind, body, or spirit.   When we as highly trained, high performing professionals ignore the impact of mental and emotional exhaustion, the result is lowered job satisfaction level, a decreased sense of self, feeling like a dro...
This week next level physician Dr. Christopher Burton and I talked about his journey of starting practices and how he now helps other physicians in this area, in The Business of Medicine episode.